Dictionary.com definition of a fucker as an inconsequential, annoying, or disgusting person.
How I learned about the first fucker in Thailand
When I first heard someone say to me, “Thailand is full of fuk-rs,” I thought that person was on crack. Then after reading what people (mainly farangs) are doing and saying about Thais, I have changed my mind and here is why:
Bare with me for a quick anecdote…
Back in 2011, I was travelling to Davao City, Philippines, and I came across an older Dutchman. He was at least in his late 60’s or 70’s. He said he was a retired medical worker from the Netherlands, and he spoke English, German, Dutch and two other languages. He was visiting one of his friends who were staying at the same hotel I was at, and that was how I bumped into him. He said he moved all his belongings from the Netherlands in a container, and now he lives on the outskirt of Davao City.
his Filipino freinds
One day, I got a chance to visit this old Dutch man’s home. I looked around noticing all the nice things he brought with him from the Netherlands, and I wondered why he picked the Philippines to live out the remainder of his life.
I didn’t understand why this old Dutchman or anyone wanted to live in the Philippines.
I have been to both Thailand and the Philippines, and I have to say out of the two countries, I think Thailand is a much better place to live. I even talked about this to some of my Filipino friends back home and other Filipinos I met while travelling, and they all agree that Thailand is a more comfortable place to live.
I’m not trying to bash the Philippines. Thailand is not perfect either. Both countries have their pros and cons, but if you add up all the advantages, I think Thailand wins. That’s all I’m saying.
So I was curious about this old Dutchman, retired, well educated, came from a wealthy country. He could have easily picked any country and city to retire in, but he decided on the Phil? So I asked him why he didn’t go to Thailand, and he said two things:
- Filipinos speak English – making it easy for him to mingle with the locals.His second reason surprised me when he said…
- Thailand is full of fuk-rs – Yup, he said, “Thailand is full of fuk-rs,” that was the first time someone said that to me. At first, I didn’t understand what he meant. I thought he was joking, so I asked him what he meant and if it included the Thais. He said, “No Thai, but all the fuk-rs go live in Thailand.” He was saying all of his countrymen, and other men from the west who live in Thailand are fuk-rs. Me = Lol
At the time I was laughing because I didn’t believe him. I told myself he was an old guy, and he didn’t know what he was talking about. Besides, he had never been to Thailand because he genuinely believed all fuk-rs live in Thailand. Just because some people in his home country believe only fuk-rs go to Thailand doesn’t necessarily mean it’s true. Right?
This was back in 2011 and I still didn’t believe him…. UNTIL
Why I think some farangs men living in Thailand are fuk-rs
Until I was planning to move permanently to Thailand, and I was doing some preparation by searching and Googling things about Thailand, I came across a site called LivingThai dot org owned and operated by an Australian guy named Christopher (Chris).
At first, I found much of Chris’s postings interesting. Some of the stuff was entertaining, some I could relate to, and some I thought I’d try myself when I’m in Thailand. Then some postings made me realize and understand what the retired Dutchman was talking about.
I couldn’t believe what some of these foreigners or so call farangs are thinking, saying and doing to the Thais. A lot of these farang guys doing all these crazy shit to the Thai women (young girls as well as underage girls). He talks about having a threesome, having multiple girlfriends, how to sponsor young girls so he can have sex with them and he doesn’t know why Thais don’t respect them or don’t like them.
After reading some of the posts from LivingThai dot org by Christopher, I finally understood what that old Dutchman was talking about. Thank you livingthai dot org for making me understand that many fuk-rs do live in Thailand.
If there’s a king of all fuk-rs in Thailand, in my opinion, this Christopher Simmons guy from livingThai dot org is the king of all fuk-rs because he’s making a living writing about how others can be fuk-rs too. But not in those exact words.
For example, Chris wrote in his blog:
First off, I’m Thai, and I just happened to grow up in the West. I lived in a Thai family all of my life, and I have never heard the term Gik or Kik. Ever! And I”m trying very hard to recognize what a Gik or Kik is but nothing is clicking. I think Chris has been hanging around with the wrong people in the wrong places. Assuming affairs are normal, like eating pie, is just wrong and not true at all.
I have been living in Canada for three decades, and I know there are many Thai words I do not know. I’m not saying there isn’t the term Gik or Kik. But my point is a typical Thai family don’t use this term or teach their kids about it.
Having an affair is a bad thing in the eyes of Thais. I’m sure Thais have just as many affairs as many other countries around the world, but to assume all Thais have affairs based on one or two incidents does not mean all Thais have them.
For one, my grandparents on both sides were married all their lives – never divorced. I never heard of any stories about my grandpas having a second wife or “mai noi” or a “kik.” Even my grandfather who was a very wealthy business man during his youth and owned property all around Ubon, I never heard of him having an affair.
The same for many of my aunts and uncles in Thailand as well as in the West. If they had an affair, they wouldn’t talk about it or do it in public. So it is not a normal thing to have an affair in Thailand or with Thais. If you think it is, then I think you are a fucker, and you should get out of Pattaya, Phuket and Chang Mai to experience the other side of Thailand outside of the sex trade.
Another post by Chris from livingthai dot org:
My family came from Isaan. I was born in Isaan, and I don’t think we are all that bad of people. So I think he’s talking about “staying away from Isaan girls who work as prostitutes.” Those Isaan girls are probably hookers, and yes they make bad partners and wives because they are primarily interested in your money.
I can give you many more examples, but I think you get the idea.
I don’t think all Thais work in the sex trade and not all farangs are sex tourists or fuk-rs.
The real problem is not Thailand or the Thai people. I think the main problem is farangs who go to Thailand to live in or vacation in the tourist areas which have a high concentration of prostitutes and other sex workers. They stay in places like Pattaya, Chang Mai, Phuket or even parts of Bangkok. Thais working in the tourist trade or working in the sex trade represent about 5% of Thailand, and they do not represent all of Thailand.